Of all the stresses that threaten to reduce our vitality, denying ourselves our basic needs and truest desires has to be one of the most potent.
When, for some imagined or real, internal or external reason, I am not able to fully communicate what it is that I want and need, I notice immediate physical ramifications: A tightening of my pelvic floor, a frozen breathing diaphragm, even an acute ache throughout my throat and neck. Perhaps you can notice something similar. It's the body's way of alerting us that we're not making choices to support our wellbeing, so we choke up, strangle our root, and restrict our breathing. It seems obvious that this physical tension would then seep into our relationships, including that which we have with ourselves. Negative feelings are labeled as such because they do nothing to support or increase our vitality. Feelings of resentment are particularly draining because there is often an unspoken disagreement at hand in which one or more parties is not having their needs met.
The keyword above is choices, which are ultimately up to you to make. You do your best to behave responsibly in the matrix of society, but if you walk around carrying feelings of unresolved resentment, which evolve into chronic tension on the mind and body, you will not be able to function as the best possible version of yourself. This is a loss not only to you but to everyone you interact with. The alternative is to recognize your wants and needs, and once they become clear to you, to give them voice: say it straight, simple and with a smile.
It is up to you to make the change, which starts by honoring your truth. Today's meditation takes a sure step in that direction.
Tip: read through the entire meditation before settling in to try it.
Find a quiet, clean space where you can be undisturbed. Sit with your back straight but relaxed, supporting the hips by sitting up on a cushion if needed. If you are unable to comfortably sit, you might lay on your back.
Set a timer for 10 minutes. Close your eyes and bring your attention to your breathing. See if you can watch the breath from the bottom of an inhale, to the top; at the small pause; then all the way to the bottom of the exhale, with its small pause. Do not try to breathe, or judge how you are doing. Just follow the breath as it is. Continue this for a few rounds, resting your focus on one breath at a time.
Now you are ready to introduce the mantra:
I honor my truth.
Repeat this to yourself, slowly and silently, until your alarm sounds. When you hear the alarm, release the mantra, and continue to sit and observe a few breaths. Notice what, if anything, has changed in your mental, emotional, and physical state.
When you are ready, seal the practice by bringing your palms to touch in front of your heart, bow your head towards your chest, then rise up, open your eyes, and arrive for your day, carrying with you the intention to accept, honor and speak your truth.
Article by Chelsey Kapuscinski, Certified Rolfer™, RYT, B.S.
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